Is Romance and True Love Dead?

I am a romantic by heart. There is something about love that just makes my heart skip a beat. From the grand gestures to the little moments, love is what keeps us going in this world. My favorite movies of all time are Pretty Woman and Love and Basketball. I can watch them over and over again, and they never get old. My favorite channel on TV is the Hallmark channel. Everyone tells me that I am too sappy, but I don't care. I love seeing people in love.

So, I hope romance is not dead. However, in today's world, it seems like romance is getting harder and harder to find. With dating apps and reality shows taking over, it's hard to believe that true love is still out there. Are these things killing romance or is it just for the money?

I know that love is expressed differently among African Americans and Caucasians. However, money and infidelity are still the top reasons why most relationships do not last. It's sad to see that so many people are more focused on material possessions than on finding true love.

Romance is not dead and it is something that most women value more than anything. It is always a question in the back of your head, "Will my partner love me forever?" The answer to that question depends on many factors, but one thing is certain: we, as women, have to develop better habits and let go of some of the baggage that we too carry from relationship to relationship. If true love and romance are what you are searching for, then it may be time to look at ourselves and seek counseling. This is how we will be a better partners to ourselves and the person we want to share our lives with.

It's no secret that love and relationships can be complicated. We all have our own set of quirks and baggage that we bring into a relationship. However, if we want to have a successful and fulfilling relationship, we need to be willing to work on ourselves and let go of the things that are holding us back. This may involve seeking counseling or therapy to address any underlying issues that are preventing us from being the best version of ourselves.

I remember reading Steve Harvey's book "Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man," and he said one key thing that will always stay with me because it makes so much sense.

He broke it down like this: Men need three things, and if they don't have those three things, they will never be ready to truly love a woman because their focus will be acquiring those three things. They are (1) who they are, (2) what they do, and (3) how much they make.

Now, while this may not be true for every man out there, it does make sense. Men want to be able to provide for their families and feel secure in their careers. If they don't have those things, it can be hard for them to focus on anything else. However, this doesn't mean that money should be the most important thing in a relationship.

Men and women too, often get caught up in their careers and finances, putting their relationships on the back burner. This is where dating apps and reality shows come in - they offer a quick and easy way to meet people, but they also promote the idea that love is a game.

Think about it - on dating apps, we swipe left or right based on someone's appearance. On reality shows, contestants are competing for love, often making questionable decisions in the process. These platforms are not conducive to building real, lasting relationships and it may appear that romance and true love do not exist.

In fact, I think that true love is about so much more than money and playing games. It's about finding someone who accepts you for who you are, flaws, and all. It's about being able to communicate and work through any issues that may arise. It's about being there for each other through thick and thin.

In 2021 a study was done showing there was a decline in romantic relationships among young adults. They are having less sex compared to previous decades. There has also been a rise in playing video games and alcohol consumption among young adults.

So, if you're feeling discouraged about the state of romance in today's world, don't give up hope just yet. Finding true love and romance is not easy, but it is possible. By seeking counseling and taking a look at ourselves, we can become better partners with ourselves and the person we want to share our lives with. Remember, love is a journey, not a destination. It takes time and effort to find true love and romance, but the payoff is worth it. So, be patient, be kind, and most importantly, be true to yourself. And who knows - you just might find your own version of Pretty Woman or Love and Basketball.

Until Next Time...

Simply Jaynae